cleaning

Getting something done and doing it properly (or thoroughly) are different things.

You can get something done and go around telling people you did it.
But when someone checks your work, they might find you did not do it properly.
So tell me, what's the use of getting things done when you are not giving your best?

Every little thing in life could be important. Cleaning your house, mopping the floor or washing a dish.

If you volunteer to do the dishes after meal, you shouldn't be content with just rinse them over with water. You should wash every plate and fork and spoon carefully, making sure that they are clean of grease, so that the next person using it won't have to wash it again.
So what's the use of WASHING the dishes when you do not wash it clean?

I really appreciate someone who would do the house chores. In fact I do thank you for doing them so I have time to read and do my own things. But if you are not doing it right after proclaiming you have done them, it creates problems too.
What if I find the floor is still oily right after you mopped it? I couldn't redo the task in front of you again, right? It would be rude and it's like denying your effort.

You know, mopping could be some sort of meditation. In fact, putting all your heart into doing what you are doing is a sort of meditation. You have to know what you ARE doing, not just perform the tasks without knowing.

In short, okay, let me do the cleaning.

别太快把心交出去

别太快把心交出去。

室友（当然，是大学的室友）说的这句话，一直徘徊在心里。暂时还找不到方法开门，让它进入适当的角落，成为生命的养分。
一直以来，我都不会主动与人交流。因为我害怕，万一跟错的对象开口，会扰乱生命线。但只要他人主动接触，凭着几次的交流觉得这不是坏人，放下警戒后，马上就会当那人是朋友。
就算不会一开始就奉献一切，也会想办法给对方我能给的。
这样，算很快把心交出去吗？

我还没受过重伤（或许也不会受伤了？），所以还很笨地相信人。

无论什么类型的感情，只要随缘就好了。如果我现在的付出不会有回报，至少当下我做了自己该做的。

或许一开始我该找更严峻的环境，让自己狠狠流血。

朋友与同事

身为菜鸟，对这个社会有很多疑惑。其中对我来说比较重要的，是这个:

同事能不能成为朋友？

我尝试从每天一小时的午餐时间寻找答案。对于和同事之间的相处模式，我实在找不到定点。虽然每天会一起吃午餐，聊天说笑，可我连大部分人的电话号码也没有。

到现在我还在小心翼翼地观望，看他们对这个问题的态度与看法。

不过，我当他们是朋友，但还不是互相依赖的comrade。

可是朋友与同事的标签该怎么分辨？

我老板杰伟说，大多同事只当你是同事。只有上班时间才会与你共处。

下班后，各自有各自的生活圈子。而你，只能被归类为同事。

对于一个身在他乡无人无物的菜鸟来说，这个问题的答案也许很残忍。但我会用时间慢慢解答。这段时间里，我只要做自己就好了。

Something about career (with mumbles in between)

反正都写了，顺便接下去吧。

今天和同事吃午餐时，聊到一个很有趣的话题。其中一个同事说了一句话：“如果公司认为员工是可有可无的，随时能够被取代的，那福利制度就不会改进。因为你走了，还有人会进来啊。”

*我的天啊我需要思考亲爱的室友你能戴耳机嘛*

Let's use English then, since I can't think properly now.

That sentence lead me to more questions.

How does your company value you?
Are you important for the company?
What can you do for the company that makes you irreplaceable?

In return,

How do you value your company?
What is the value of your current job?
What can you learn from your current job?
What kind of future can you shape while doing what you are doing now?

It has been two months since I started working. It is about time to ponder over all these questions, and find out what this job could offer me. What kind of future I want? How far I want to go?

This reminded me of a question asked by my coursemate not long ago.
Do you aim high in your career?

*Dear roommate at least decrease volume la aiyo... you know speaker is behind the phone? and the back of your phone is freaking in front of me ==*

Ehem... Do you aim high in your career?
I don't know bro, I can't think beyond three years.
But it is best to figure out from now on.

People don't really know what they want, but they know clearly what they do not want. That is a good direction to start. It's like crossing out the least possible answer while doing MCQ during examinations.

关于星座、血型和心理测验

有的人很相信星座和血型与性格之间的关系。平常总会听见人们说：

“处女座的人有洁癖。” “双鱼座的人很情绪化。” “O型的人比较大方。”

普遍上来说，这些可能都是正确的。因为星座和血型或性格测验（非专业的），大多是通过大众统计，得出来的普遍上的“结论”。

如果忘了这一点，单纯的一般论就会演变成偏见。

“你是处女座哦？那一定很爱干净。”

“你不是O型血吗？怎么那么小气。”

如此如此，这般这般……

又或者，为了迎合大众，忘了自己可以是“普遍”以外的群体的一部分，拼命显示出社会赋予你的星座或血型的性格。

不爱干净？那你就不是典型的处女座啦。

不爱emo？那你还是双鱼座吗？

不够迷糊？那你别当天秤座好了。

人总会下意识地给自己画个框，非要待在一个箱子里，才能感到安全。于是，衍生了许多纯属玩乐性质的心理测试，非要给你贴个标签才算是社会的一份子。要知道，一个心理测验可能只有四个答案，假设得到每个结果的几率一样，那你和其他做过这个测验的25%人有一样的性格，那不是闷死了吗？这个世界因为有许多性格不一的人，才变得更精彩。我自己蛮喜欢遇见怪胎或失败品的，这样就能很贱地去把快乐建立在别人的痛苦上。

说了那么多，也许我也只想给自己一个标签。所以有时会急着发言。

周围有四面墙，倒是比较安全。这个世界那么黑暗。

可是，不跳出框框，怎么能看见不同的人对这个世界不同的定义与看法？

Embrace diversity.

不过，心理测验无聊时做做也好。说不定能从那25%里面发现一部分的自己。或者你想成为/应该成为/被期待成为的自己。